Friend tried to hang himself, brain-dead now. Father of 3. Why?

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31. Very sorry to hear this Bonobo, only thing I can offer is this as someone who thinks about it...

Suicide is very simple, it happens when the emotional pain overwhelms ones coping abilities. Plain and simple. Don't ask any questions beyond that cause no answers exist beyond it, the questions may seen meaningful to you but the truth is they aren't. The pain simply reached a point where the decision to die weighed ever so slightly in favour of the decision to live. There is no other why.

I've been dealing with a recent breakdown, and have had several in the past, and part of these are frequent thoughts of suicide. I don't plan or go through with it because of the thought of what it would do to those who love me. But ask yourself this. What keeps YOU alive? If your answer is JUST what the thought of your death would mean to those who love you and there is NOTHING else keeping you alive, you are probably not in a good place. That might keep you from killing yourself for quite some time but when you think about it, it's not a reason to live for either is it? A reason NOT to kill yourself is not a reason TO live. You have to have a reason to live! If you no longer can answer the question "is it better to be alive or dead" in the affirmative, things are not going to end well in the long run. My guess is that your friend had been struggling with this for far longer than those around him may have thought. And it's NOT you're fault or ANY of those who loved him that they couldn't tell. I know that none of the people who know me know anything about my deep depressions and anxieties unless I choose to let them know about it, it's unfortunately amazingly easy to hide from even those closest to you.