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easttexaslefty

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12. ((((( Bonobo ))))))

Sun Oct 27, 2013, 04:00 PM

Oct 2013

It's not something he meant to do "to" them, I would guess. My son suicided in 2007. He was 33 and if you had met him, you would never believe suicide would ever been something he would consider. He didn't't leave a note but some events transpired in a short amount of time ( involving money) that we weren't aware of. ( the last being the repossession of his car at work that night)
Maybe something happened that people are not aware of and he at that moment could not see a way out.
Or maybe like me, he struggled with depression and suicidal ideation. ( PTSD & major chronic depression from my son suiciding & the finding him). I have felt ( at times) that I was a burden to my family and would be doing them a favor. I, if anybody, should know differently but depression lies.
I'm very sorry for your loss. This was not anyone's fault. Big big hugs.

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Friend tried to hang himself, brain-dead now. Father of 3. Why? [View all] Bonobo Oct 2013 OP

I don't think you can find a logical answer BainsBane Oct 2013 #1

Thank you for responding. Bonobo Oct 2013 #2

Terrible for all concerned intaglio Oct 2013 #3

I understand your hurt and bewilderement....Although I agree with BB regarding his inner pain, whathehell Oct 2013 #4

Yes, we get caught unexpecting in such crisis because things aren't shared HereSince1628 Oct 2013 #5

I am so sorry for your loss.. whathehell Oct 2013 #7

Thanks but really the only emotion I had was about getting him cremated HereSince1628 Oct 2013 #9

You and twin stepped up to what sounds like a real mess. No Vested Interest Oct 2013 #11

I hope the twin is getting psychological and scientific help to realize that No Vested Interest Oct 2013 #8

No, he's denying any need. HereSince1628 Oct 2013 #10

I'm sorry Bonobo libodem Oct 2013 #6

((((( Bonobo )))))) easttexaslefty Oct 2013 #12

I am so sorry. *hugs* There hardly ever seems to be a satisfactory GreenPartyVoter Oct 2013 #13

I'm having trouble with this thread. I've similar experiences and I've never figured out "Why?" hunter Oct 2013 #14

(UPDATE) Bonobo Oct 2013 #15

Again, sorry for your pain. Denninmi Oct 2013 #16

Bonobo... ScreamingMeemie Oct 2013 #18

Thank you very much. Bonobo Oct 2013 #19

There are really good days, and then there are days where I can't breathe. ScreamingMeemie Oct 2013 #21

How old was he? Any chance he had high blood pressure? TexasBushwhacker Oct 2013 #17

I am starting to wonder if SSRI's might be involved too. Bonobo Oct 2013 #20

The danger with SSRI's and bipolar is that they can increase manic episodes TexasBushwhacker Oct 2013 #22

Yes, I learned that recently. Bonobo Oct 2013 #27

Most suicide attempts of adults overwhelming correlate to failures to see a way out, not SSRIs HereSince1628 Oct 2013 #23

Typically BPD is treated with a stabilizer like lithium as well BainsBane Oct 2013 #34

(Update) He passed away this morning Bonobo Oct 2013 #24

i am so very sorry for your loss fizzgig Oct 2013 #25

I'm very very sorry. easttexaslefty Oct 2013 #26

Was he from a culture that might consider suicide the honorable thing No Vested Interest Oct 2013 #28

No. Bonobo Oct 2013 #29

I'm glad to know that. And offer you my sympathy on the loss No Vested Interest Oct 2013 #30

Very sorry to hear this Bonobo, only thing I can offer is this as someone who thinks about it... Locut0s Oct 2013 #31

Thanks, Locutus. Bonobo Oct 2013 #32

No need to thank me. Stay strong... Locut0s Oct 2013 #33

I'm sorry, Bonobo. transient Dec 2013 #35