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[Dem2theMax]

82. Slightly, I am so very sorry for the loss of your mother.

So many of us have already been there, so we do know how you are feeling. I lost both of my parents in 2012, six months apart.

The biggest thing I learned was that there isn't one right way to grieve. We all do it in our own way, and in our own time. Give yourself permission to do what you need to do for you. You took care of your mom, and it sounds like you did so beyond measure. Now take that caring and apply it to yourself. She would want you to do that.

As for all of the things that need to be done, lean on the professionals. The funeral home, the cemetery, anyone you have to deal with. That's what they are there for, and they will help you.

None of us can control the weather, so let it go. Make your arrangements, and family that can make it, will be there.

The tears will come. When they start, let it happen. It is part of grieving, and healing. I call tears 'liquid pain coming out of my eyes.'

You were so busy with your mom, that you didn't have time to grieve your dad. Now you can grieve both of them, and process it in your way and in your time. And someday, can't tell you when, the happy memories are going to be stronger than the grief.
I promise it will come.

For your mom and dad
For your dad

For you