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slightlv

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73. I hadn't even thought about a task list!

Sat Jan 4, 2025, 11:33 PM

Jan 2025

What a great idea. I've been trying to juggle it all in my head, trying to get ideas and help from Sis. And just NYE, I discovered papers in my Dad's old army trunk that were papers of Mom's for when she died. I hate having to go through that trunk again, but I have no idea what those papers were. Grandson asked if I wanted to do it after supper tonight, but I just can't. I have a couple of calls to make, and then I'm going to bed, I think. Tomorrow, with inches and inches of snow on the ground will be soon enough to go through the trunk again. Maybe, taking a closer look, I'll find the photo of my great-grandfather I was looking for the first time. He fought "Old Man Koch" (his name for him) his entire adult life. Full blooded Cherokee and Democrat to the bone. It runs in the family! Tomorrow... when the world is white and quiet... time soon enough for a task list. Thank you for an obvious helpful reminder!

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I don't know if this is okay to put here [View all] slightlv Jan 2025 OP

You are doing very well, so hang in there. Irish_Dem Jan 2025 #1

The loss of a mother leaves a void that words cannot fill. Emile Jan 2025 #2

Deeply sorry for your loss AltairIV Jan 2025 #3

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I have found the staff at the National Cemeteries to be helpful and caring. 70sEraVet Jan 2025 #84

Both of my parents are buried in a veteran cemetery in MA. Between the funeral home and the VA, it all went well. usaf-vet Jan 2025 #94

I'm... JoeOtterbein Jan 2025 #5

How sad and painful for you. You will do the best you can. It will be enough. Nanuke Jan 2025 #6

Deepest sympathy malaise Jan 2025 #7

My condolences on your loss. Xavier Breath Jan 2025 #8

I am so sorry for your loss, slightly. sheshe2 Jan 2025 #9

Sorry for your loss. Americanme Jan 2025 #10

You need to take a deep breath and just mourn a little. MadameButterfly Jan 2025 #11

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, Madame... slightlv Jan 2025 #33

it sounds like MadameButterfly Jan 2025 #74

I am so sorry for your loss; may your Mom cross gently & may your hearts be comforted by good memories Hekate Jan 2025 #12

I'm so sorry you lost your mom. Diamond_Dog Jan 2025 #13

Deepest condolences SheltieLover Jan 2025 #14

Thank you for the link, Sheltie... slightlv Jan 2025 #20

Lean away my friend SheltieLover Jan 2025 #26

You are a great resource, SheltieLover. erronis Jan 2025 #32

Awwwwm ty. SheltieLover Jan 2025 #34

Crying is good malaise Jan 2025 #29

it sure is, Malaise! SheltieLover Jan 2025 #36

That's what's so strange, Malaise... slightlv Jan 2025 #37

A beautiful response from you malaise Jan 2025 #39

My sincere condolences. Dennis Donovan Jan 2025 #15

Very sorry for your loss... Dem4life1970 Jan 2025 #16

I am so sorry senseandsensibility Jan 2025 #17

My condolences to you and your family. The burial details will work themselves out. sinkingfeeling Jan 2025 #18

I am very sorry for your loss, slightlv. brer cat Jan 2025 #19

Strength and honor. WheelWalker Jan 2025 #21

Condolences on your loss Alice Kramden Jan 2025 #22

I like that . Thank you. surfered Jan 2025 #24

This quote helped me many times Alice Kramden Jan 2025 #25

Never heard it before. surfered Jan 2025 #27

I've never heard that one, but I'm bookmarking it slightlv Jan 2025 #38

And find time to take care of you malaise Jan 2025 #43

GREAT quote. "All you can do is all you can do, and all you can do is enough." calimary Jan 2025 #97

That's hard. Being an only child, I had no sibling issues about final arrangements. surfered Jan 2025 #23

Thank all of you for being so compassionate rich7862 Jan 2025 #28

My condolences, it's a difficult confusing time bucolic_frolic Jan 2025 #30

If it's any consolation. Those of us who have buried our mothers and fathers.... OAITW r.2.0 Jan 2025 #31

It IS a consolation, slightlv Jan 2025 #40

Glad I could contribute in this thread. Lost my Dad in 76 and my mom 1999. OAITW r.2.0 Jan 2025 #50

The funeral home should be able to hold your mother's body. We held my MIL for over a week till family badhair77 Jan 2025 #35

You answered one of my biggest questions and worries, badhair... slightlv Jan 2025 #46

The 10 days was for PA and that was almost 20 years ago but I doubt anything has changed. badhair77 Jan 2025 #64

My deepest condolences Shambala Jan 2025 #41

That's the one real regret I have, that I've not uttered til now. slightlv Jan 2025 #71

I am so sorry that your dear mother has passed Tanuki Jan 2025 #42

However you do it, it will be right. Its clear from your post how important it is to you to take care of her this last MLAA Jan 2025 #44

You are not alone. usonian Jan 2025 #45

Love To You From Here Y'all MayReasonRule Jan 2025 #47

Is there anyway to move this discussion from this forum slightlv Jan 2025 #48

Totally good putting this in GD! AKwannabe Jan 2025 #49

Sorry for your loss marked50 Jan 2025 #51

Sending you blessings of comfort and peace Wicked Blue Jan 2025 #52

She would want you to be kind to yourself. Moms are like that so, Maru Kitteh Jan 2025 #53

you'll do her proud. barbtries Jan 2025 #54

Losing your mom ms.pamela Jan 2025 #60

I am so sorry, Slightly. choie Jan 2025 #55

My condolences. Sorry you have extra obstacles to have everything properly done... electric_blue68 Jan 2025 #56

I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is so hard Maraya1969 Jan 2025 #57

Peace be with you. jeffreyi Jan 2025 #58

I am very sorry for your loss 🤗 Meowmee Jan 2025 #59

I've told every one of my friends and family slightlv Jan 2025 #72

Sad they don't do that Meowmee Jan 2025 #75

Look into a jewish burial Mosby Jan 2025 #93

I'm sorry for your loss Danmel Jan 2025 #61

So sorry. Dear_Prudence Jan 2025 #62

Breathe Xipe Totec Jan 2025 #63

I was the same way when my Mom died Figarosmom Jan 2025 #65

First of all... WinstonSmith4740 Jan 2025 #66

Wishing you strength and peace DaBronx Jan 2025 #67

Condolences. It's tough. Been there. paleotn Jan 2025 #68

I hadn't even thought about a task list! slightlv Jan 2025 #73

No worries. Trust me, nothing is obvious when you're in that situation. paleotn Jan 2025 #86

I'm so sorry for your loss. Solly Mack Jan 2025 #69

Dear slightly, I am sorry for the death of your mom. May her memories be a blessing to you. debm55 Jan 2025 #70

I'm so sorry for your loss. area51 Jan 2025 #76

For my 2 cents' worth, you'll be fine in everything you do. Keep up the good work and your spirits. SWBTATTReg Jan 2025 #77

I'm so sorry for your loss cate94 Jan 2025 #78

I am so very sorry for your loss. Unladen Swallow Jan 2025 #79

Your mom knows you are doing your best. Joinfortmill Jan 2025 #80

I'm so sorry for your loss, slightly. summer_in_TX Jan 2025 #81

Slightly, I am so very sorry for the loss of your mother. Dem2theMax Jan 2025 #82

Honor your mom. Don't worry what others think, whether siblings or friends. Do what you know she'd want. ancianita Jan 2025 #83

Don't beat yourself up over this. Paladin Jan 2025 #85

I'm so sorry that you are going through this karin_sj Jan 2025 #87

Thank you for your suggestions! slightlv Jan 2025 #99

You seem to be doing remarkably well under the circumstances. OldBaldy1701E Jan 2025 #88

I'm so sorry for your loss. yardwork Jan 2025 #89

Sorry for your loss. yagotme Jan 2025 #90

Your mom Clouds Passing Jan 2025 #91

You are doing fine. EndlessWire Jan 2025 #92

I'm so sorry for your devastating loss, slightlv Niagara Jan 2025 #95

My mother passed a decade ago. Prairie_Seagull Jan 2025 #96

My Mom was a horrible cook... and she'd tell that to anyone! slightlv Jan 2025 #100

I really like some more complex foods. Prairie_Seagull Jan 2025 #106

So very sorry IbogaProject Jan 2025 #98

Thank you to everyone for your information, links slightlv Jan 2025 #101

I'm so sorry for your loss - TBF Jan 2025 #102

I'm very sorry for your loss dlk Jan 2025 #103

My most sincere condolences. B.See Jan 2025 #104

I'm in this Kansas blizzard too, and rhiannon55 Jan 2025 #105