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In reply to the discussion: I don't know if this is okay to put here [View all]Maraya1969
(23,337 posts)57. I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is so hard

As far as making mistakes we had a memorial for my dad after a service and we were then told to go to the memorial garden because he was cremated.
So I got there first and what I see is a little cardboard box. I remember saying, 'Is my father in there?" and I don't think anyone felt comfortable at that point
A minute or 2 later the minister comes running out with nice cover, (table cloth small thing)
I bet whoever was in charge felt really bad about it. But nothing was said nor needed to be said.
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Both of my parents are buried in a veteran cemetery in MA. Between the funeral home and the VA, it all went well.
usaf-vet
Jan 2025
#94
I am so sorry for your loss; may your Mom cross gently & may your hearts be comforted by good memories
Hekate
Jan 2025
#12
My condolences to you and your family. The burial details will work themselves out.
sinkingfeeling
Jan 2025
#18
GREAT quote. "All you can do is all you can do, and all you can do is enough."
calimary
Jan 2025
#97
That's hard. Being an only child, I had no sibling issues about final arrangements.
surfered
Jan 2025
#23
If it's any consolation. Those of us who have buried our mothers and fathers....
OAITW r.2.0
Jan 2025
#31
The funeral home should be able to hold your mother's body. We held my MIL for over a week till family
badhair77
Jan 2025
#35
The 10 days was for PA and that was almost 20 years ago but I doubt anything has changed.
badhair77
Jan 2025
#64
However you do it, it will be right. Its clear from your post how important it is to you to take care of her this last
MLAA
Jan 2025
#44
My condolences. Sorry you have extra obstacles to have everything properly done...
electric_blue68
Jan 2025
#56
Dear slightly, I am sorry for the death of your mom. May her memories be a blessing to you.
debm55
Jan 2025
#70
For my 2 cents' worth, you'll be fine in everything you do. Keep up the good work and your spirits.
SWBTATTReg
Jan 2025
#77