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30. My condolences, it's a difficult confusing time

Sat Jan 4, 2025, 08:23 PM

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If you set up arrangements, your siblings or anyone else really don't have much say. They can request changes, or talk things over, but if you're the executor, you have this legal power. Arrangements are kind of contractual. Funeral directors are usually of great help, they deal with grief all the time.

Courage, and be kind to yourself. It's a tough happening. Cherish the good memories.

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The loss of a mother leaves a void that words cannot fill. Emile Saturday #2

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That's hard. Being an only child, I had no sibling issues about final arrangements. surfered Saturday #23

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My condolences, it's a difficult confusing time bucolic_frolic Saturday #30

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