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Elder-caregivers

JudyM

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14. All excellent advice above by other DUers.

Reply to groundloop (Original post)

Thu Oct 24, 2019, 03:52 PM

Oct 2019

I’ve been down this road, too, as have friends of mine. One step at a time you can make progress... to warm her up to the concept... Often there are speakers or activities that you might be able to attend to get her in the door at a few of these facilities... see if there’s one she likes better than others, then emphasize how much easier her life will be, as well as yours.

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Elder mother-in-law refuses to move to assisted living [View all] groundloop Oct 2019 OP

check into the laws of your state is where you begin beachbumbob Oct 2019 #1

my advice is to put your foot down and move her now. mopinko Oct 2019 #2

will she go to a senior center janterry Oct 2019 #3

It's very difficult with some people. northoftheborder Oct 2019 #4

Fundamentally it's her choice. Jirel Oct 2019 #5

It might be time to get custodianship- dawg day Oct 2019 #6

They will have to have proof she is unable to care for herself. If she or family has resources, at emmaverybo Oct 2019 #11

There are no good options. Some facilities have Adult Day Care. Raven123 Oct 2019 #7

I found in dealing with two parents with dementia (both now passed) enough Oct 2019 #8

Have you tried adult day care? It might warm her to the idea of socialization with others. 58Sunliner Oct 2019 #9

We hired a local care giver assistance LakeArenal Oct 2019 #10

Things vary with the individual and which state. 3Hotdogs Oct 2019 #12

I had to Rebl2 Oct 2019 #13

All excellent advice above by other DUers. JudyM Oct 2019 #14