Elder-caregivers

Raven123

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7. There are no good options. Some facilities have Adult Day Care.

Wed Oct 23, 2019, 07:04 PM

Oct 2019

You can try to get her into one. You can get to know the facility and she might make new friends.

If you have not done so, consider consulting with an eldercare attorney. You need to know the laws in your state and the challenges you are facing. If your MIL is still legally competent, now is the time for the POAs (financial and healthcare), Wills, and financial planning.

Unfortunately, most of us don’t have a what if... conversation with our parents and then stumble our way through caregiving.

My thoughts are with you.

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Elder mother-in-law refuses to move to assisted living [View all] groundloop Oct 2019 OP

check into the laws of your state is where you begin beachbumbob Oct 2019 #1

my advice is to put your foot down and move her now. mopinko Oct 2019 #2

will she go to a senior center janterry Oct 2019 #3

It's very difficult with some people. northoftheborder Oct 2019 #4

Fundamentally it's her choice. Jirel Oct 2019 #5

It might be time to get custodianship- dawg day Oct 2019 #6

They will have to have proof she is unable to care for herself. If she or family has resources, at emmaverybo Oct 2019 #11

There are no good options. Some facilities have Adult Day Care. Raven123 Oct 2019 #7

I found in dealing with two parents with dementia (both now passed) enough Oct 2019 #8

Have you tried adult day care? It might warm her to the idea of socialization with others. 58Sunliner Oct 2019 #9

We hired a local care giver assistance LakeArenal Oct 2019 #10

Things vary with the individual and which state. 3Hotdogs Oct 2019 #12

I had to Rebl2 Oct 2019 #13

All excellent advice above by other DUers. JudyM Oct 2019 #14