If you do appear (on the outside) to be a rough around the edges hyper masculine guy, you'll have that much more credibility with males to begin to nudge them to greater awareness of their privileges, mistaken assumptions, and range of better behavioral choices. I don't know the sphere in which you live and work, and obviously that "nudging" can take a lot of different forms, but I've noticed well-placed regular humor (of the Will Ferrell kind) when you see bad behavior in other guys helps to create a stereotype in their mind of an asshole, entitled guy that most guys don't want to be and motivates them to change their behavior a little.
I'm a pragmatist about social change and support the work that changes attitudes even 10% (as if that could be quantified) in a healthier, less objectifying direction as much as that which pushes for much more radical change. It all helps.
I think a lot of men somehow feel that the emotional intelligence and sensitivity you have toward women as human beings is somehow impossible to have and still retain "masculinity," which sadly for them must be predicated to that degree on being not-woman, meaning their subjectivity is more valid and real and they have to participate in all sorts of casual ways of objectifying women (e.g., the daily, unquestioned "right" to violent and degrading porn).
If someone with your "scary" appearance gives otherwise oblivious, casually abusive guys a way to critique the worst of masculinity without feeling that they're being effeminized, I'm all for it. People move in fits and starts toward better treatment of others and sometimes the most important thing is the experience of that first attitudinal change. It provides momentum and an experience with tolerating and resolving cognitive dissonance that makes the next change more palatable and likely. Glad we have another ally. 
Sorry about your loss, btw.
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