History of Feminism

KitSileya

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18. Exactly.

Mon Mar 10, 2014, 10:33 AM

Mar 2014

"Sex negative" is when you support women (and men!) making choices other than having sex all the time with everyone who wants it. Daring to support women (and men!) not having sex, supporting people when they do not want to have sex and sexual images forced before their eyes. Daring to say that while sex is something natural and a part of many people's lives, there are a segment of people who are asexual, and they have as much a right to a sex-free environment as people who love sex have the right to exercise their wish to have sex. That even people who love sex may want certain venues that are free of sexual images and sexual behavior and descriptions of sex.

"Sex negative" is when you recognize that in many situations, consent isn't or cannot be given freely, because of reasons other than pure violence. When you say that blackmail, emotional pressure, money dependence, impaired judgment, behavior, and age can cast doubt over whether consent was freely given, and that is a cause for concern.

In other words, you're "sex negative" not because you think sex is shameful, and have an unhealthy attitude towards sex, and think badly about anyone who has sex - you are "sex negative" because you lessen their chances of getting laid. And we all know that another word for "sex negative" is "prude"....and "HoFer" and "a certain group on DU", or "Some die-hards that make DU suck (because we can't post sexualized images and drool over them without push-back)".

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To those who claim that feminism is somehow about being "sex-negative"... [View all] YoungDemCA Mar 2014 OP

Thank you for a cogent assessment, chervilant Mar 2014 #1

I'm not so concerned about the hardcore ones... YoungDemCA Mar 2014 #2

Good point, chervilant Mar 2014 #3

Feminism is about money and respect. Sarah Ibarruri Mar 2014 #4

Feminism is a human dignity issue seeking to recognize that all genders/sexes Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2014 #5

This TED video chervilant Mar 2014 #6

The argument that it is "sex negative" Scootaloo Mar 2014 #7

Not as sexual partners BainsBane Mar 2014 #10

Fair point Scootaloo Mar 2014 #12

K&R! DeSwiss Mar 2014 #8

People (mostly but not all men) project their feelings about women onto women. McCamy Taylor Mar 2014 #9

Very true! Even last week, there were a Squinch Mar 2014 #23

Sexual response is one of the most complex of human behaviors The Traveler Mar 2014 #11

I think many know it's not about repressed sexuality BainsBane Mar 2014 #13

"Why do they insist on distorting arguments?" Squinch Mar 2014 #24

That brings us back to BainsBane Mar 2014 #25

Yeppers!!!! Squinch Mar 2014 #26

Jesus, now they are stoking poutrage BainsBane Mar 2014 #36

wow. and here i have been reading a book and playing with dog all day. oh, and my two nieces, seabeyond Mar 2014 #37

I have to look for that thread. I hadn't seen it. Squinch Mar 2014 #44

This. redqueen Mar 2014 #27

The imaginary porn war kind of said it all about those doing battle with their own brains Squinch Mar 2014 #28

That was something BainsBane Mar 2014 #30

But also kind of fascinating. Squinch Mar 2014 #33

I think they were fighting against something that was arguing with them and oppressing them LanternWaste Mar 2014 #45

You are giving them the benefit of the doubt, and I very much hope you are right. Squinch Mar 2014 #48

Yep. Someone here said it well... redqueen Mar 2014 #31

Labeling feminists as "faux feminists" because of their Squinch Mar 2014 #34

Very well said. redqueen Mar 2014 #35

ya know... lol. and here i was on my way out the door. yup. lmao. nt seabeyond Mar 2014 #41

the thing is BainsBane Mar 2014 #49

But, but, but... when you point out how all their positions are the same as those who Squinch Mar 2014 #50

cause redq, we have clearly learned the issue is not about women and our issues. it is about da porn seabeyond Mar 2014 #40

i know... it was so fuggin stupid, arguing with nothing. lol. i was all wtf.... seabeyond Mar 2014 #39

"Honest misunderstandings are few and far between." Squinch Mar 2014 #29

Of course... it's as plain as day. redqueen Mar 2014 #32

what about those that blatantly abuse the five rule... hu hu. rollin eyes. seabeyond Mar 2014 #42

Make it a good one! Squinch Mar 2014 #43

no redq. there is no misunderstandings. we all understand. clearly. seabeyond Mar 2014 #38

Very well said. YoungDemCA Mar 2014 #46

thank you for this post. Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2014 #22

They know it isn't "sex-negative" gollygee Mar 2014 #14

when they say "sex negative" they mean that someone doesn't approve geek tragedy Mar 2014 #15

Exactly. KitSileya Mar 2014 #18

we all know that another word for "sex negative" is "prude"....and "HoFer" and "a certain group on D seabeyond Mar 2014 #19

The sex lives of individual feminists ismnotwasm Mar 2014 #16

it was used to insult women. it is still being used to insult women. a handful of men continue to seabeyond Mar 2014 #17

I read somewhere that just because you problematise some aspects of sexuality and culture, KitSileya Mar 2014 #20

Malicious. Good word for what is happening. Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2014 #47

i have stated this so many times and will state again, not that it wont be ignored also. seabeyond Mar 2014 #21

"... i will discuss what these choices mean to us as a whole." Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2014 #51