It is worse to talk about rape apology than to be raped or to argue an accused rapist shouldn't have to face charges.
It is worse to talk about misogyny than engage in misogyny.
Why? People feel they should be able to express any view that denies the human rights of others without being called on it. They insist their views not be challenged. They insist that you ignore any argument they don't explicitly make. So if they argue some guy was "set up" by "b...s," that's okay. What's not okay is to say that treats women as inferior, indeed, less than human. If someone doesn't explicitly say "I don't care about women," it's not okay to point out that their entire analysis excludes women, rape victims, etc. . from consideration as equal human beings worthy of respect.
It's okay to argue rape really isn't much of a problem, that women lie, and that rape prevention PSA's "harangue" and "punish men," but it's not okay to point out that fits a textbook definition of rape apology. http://rationalwiki.org/wiki/Rape_apology http://everydayvictimblaming.com/news/debunking-some-of-the-myths-around-rape/
http://www.salon.com/2013/06/18/five_easy_steps_for_becoming_a_rape_apologist/
Also, if you mention the existence of rape apology, that means you have called indviduals rape apologists, even if you were not addressing them and didn't even know of their existence when you discussed a problem. Talking about the existence of rape apology is of course far more serious than directly calling someone an "authoritarian stooge" for the MIC, a fascist, crazy, a feminazi, a nazi, a "Maoist," "right-wing", or a "misandrist troll with a dark agenda."
It's okay to call someone crazy, a b...h, a w...e, a s....t, a c....t, but it's not okay to call that sexist. Sexist is a woman calling another woman "dear" rather than a "crazy . . . liar." Misogyny is talking about how misogyny is manifested, not its actual practice. Bigotry is the responsibility of organizations like the NAACP and sexism the fault of NOW and feminists like moi, not by men who insist EEOC laws are invalid, equal pay for equal work is a non-issue, or that the truly oppressed in life are men, especially upper-middle class white men. You know, if only Mitt had been born in Mexico, he'd be president now. It's the exact same attitude.
This is of course an observation of the intertubes generally and not anyone on this site.
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