"Don't you think you've had enough time to move on?"

[viva la]

4. I hope you find someone who understands.

And... I wish people realized how much such assaults can affect a life for decades-- how it can impact your decision-making (like not moving to that town or taking that job), and even little decisions like taking a cab can be difficult.

"Just move on"-- that's actually normalizing and enabling the abuser. (I know the NP didn't mean to do that.)

I can't get past the knowledge that most of the abusers and their enablers (which include all those people who don't think this is such a big deal) go along merrily in life without ever caring how difficult assault makes life -- and how brave survivors are just to survive.

I hope you find someone who can help and not hinder you! You deserve better.