Got my first settlement check today!

[SheilaT]

10. So very glad to hear this.

Interestingly enough, I've had a lot of women say to me that because they were eager to end the marriage, they agreed to less than they should have. In my case, because I gave him time I should not have agreed to, I wound up with less than I should have. But I did okay, and I have a new life now.

And that's my wish to everyone who might visit this forum: Start a new life. Yes, it's hard. Yes, it's scary. Yes, it's the unknown. But do it.

Lately I've been saying that in my most optimistic fantasies that my marriage had not ended, I'd never have persuaded him to move to Santa Fe, where I now live. And I have a very good life here. New friends, a job that suits me, time to myself.

It can take a very long time, longer than you want it to, but eventually you get through it.