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In reply to the discussion: I learned something today [View all]

Marthe48

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8. That is something I wonder
Sat Aug 31, 2024, 08:22 PM
Aug 2024

I thought of trying to find a police report, but after all this time? My parents were grateful to the officer who handled the accident. Fog of time for me. He was either an officer they knew from our town, or an officer in the town where it happened. My Mom said whatever cop was on the scene first didn't get the truck driver's name, other info. The officer who did get the info became a family friend and as time went by, often stopped by our house to say hi. If the report was fudged, will the true story ever come out? My life since that night, I've thought my aunt was driving. If my brother was, then she was blamed when it wasn't her fault. My parents blamed the truck driver, but Dad also blamed my aunt, one time to me, after I was married. I thought for a long time that the trucker couldn't be blamed entirely, because they turned in front of him.
If there is a different truth, it means my Dad and grandmother lied to us and that is another shift of my reality. Did my Mom know? Would she have told her brother, my uncle? As I type replies, I can't help thinking of events around the time of that night, and it gets complicated fast.

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I learned something today [View all] Marthe48 Aug 2024 OP
ty for the story. Tetrachloride Aug 2024 #1
That must feel so unsettling. Diamond_Dog Aug 2024 #2
I remember what we were told Marthe48 Aug 2024 #3
Deepest condolences on your loss, Marthe SheltieLover Aug 2024 #4
Thank you SheltieLover Marthe48 Aug 2024 #5
I hope your pleasant memories bring comfort to you. SheltieLover Aug 2024 #7
No, it isn't Marthe48 Aug 2024 #9
It will eventually resolve, Marthe SheltieLover Aug 2024 #10
I'm so sorry for your loss Marthe48. Would it help livetohike Aug 2024 #6
That is something I wonder Marthe48 Aug 2024 #8
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