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Bereavement

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irisblue

(34,547 posts)
Wed Oct 18, 2023, 08:59 AM Oct 2023

There is already drama & angst over clearing out my Moms' apartment [View all]

Sigh.
One of my brothers stole from my mom to pay for drugs before he was arrested on other serious charges and served many years of deserved prison time. I still hate him for what he did to my mom, he broke her heart.

Rotten brother (RB) mentioned that Mom had cash in her apartment. Good brother, SIL & I went over on Sunday afternoon to start packing up. I made it my goal to find the money. I found it. Mom had some hidden in her bibles & a few other places.
My sister, SIL GB & I counted it out in front of each other, the money was deposited in Moms bank account on Monday am to cover her final bills.

RB went with sister to do more cleaning and was angry that Moms' bibles & books were disturbed..
When GB got there later that afternoon, RB tried picking a fight. It did not go too far.

I am deeply glad I was there, took what my mom left for me, and I feel slightly guilty I am not helping clean out her apartment.

Some family members do suck

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So sorry you are going through this leftieNanner Oct 2023 #1
I'm sorry. onecaliberal Oct 2023 #2
In times like this, it brings out the best in people. Deuxcents Oct 2023 #3
Sibling catastrophes are normal at this time. Voltaire2 Oct 2023 #4
Quite true. LastDemocratInSC Oct 2023 #10
Hugs to you Duncanpup Oct 2023 #5
Winding up an estate can bring out some bad behavior in some relatives, heirs, Ocelot II Oct 2023 #6
My heart goes out to you and your family. BoomaofBandM Oct 2023 #7
I read that during the cleaning out process MOMFUDSKI Oct 2023 #8
My sisters Rebl2 Oct 2023 #9
I found SpamWyzer Oct 2023 #11
I've seen it happen in so many families radical noodle Oct 2023 #12
We had a different problem lonely bird Oct 2023 #13
My RB stole over $40K from our mother. OMGWTF Oct 2023 #14
The least favorite child often mucks up the passing Ponietz Oct 2023 #15
From my observation RB was her favorite child from early childhood on irisblue Oct 2023 #17
Some family members act like vultures. It is really sickening. Hugs to you. iluvtennis Oct 2023 #16
I am so sorry that one member of your family is making a very hard necessity even harder. appleannie1 Oct 2023 #18
I am so sorry that one member of your family is making a very hard necessity even harder. appleannie1 Oct 2023 #19
It's sad and painful when family members throw unnecessary difficulties into the mix after a loved Martin68 Oct 2023 #20
I'm so glad I was an only child because deaths seem to bring out the worst in some catbyte Oct 2023 #21
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