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SpamWyzer

(385 posts)
15. You feel anger,
Sat Apr 22, 2023, 10:23 AM
Apr 2023

and you manifest strength. That is how you show the love you still feel for Elizabeth. I know some of your pain. I lost my wife of 40 years to a leukemia diagnosis that was so slow, that no action was possible despite months of handling by doctors. I remain, 6 years into the loss, angry. My anger has made me stronger and more able to accept what happened. I hope you find peace, the loss is the worst event that can happen in a happily married man's life. Your daughters need you and you need them. I hope for resolution for all of you. The doubts and feelings that are so disturbing and disturbed will begin to quiet one day, when you least notice it. The pain will be a bit less and the burden will be a bit lighter. I say this based on my slow recovery. Life is for the living. It is. May Elizabeth rest in peace, may your heart's pain be eased and may acceptance fill your heart with the love you have for all your women. Just a stranger sending love to another hurting man. PS, your guitar work with #16 (?) is a very special thing. I enjoy reading of your good times. Big Hug Duncanpup.

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Hugs. onecaliberal Apr 2023 #1
I'm so sorry that you are going thru very rough time of grief and anger vlyons Apr 2023 #2
It's true that we can only control our own thoughts and actions. ShazzieB Apr 2023 #60
I don't trust them either, because their minds are full of delusions. vlyons Apr 2023 #61
I agree with every word of this! ShazzieB Apr 2023 #63
2 years ago I had a fever and my multigraincracker Apr 2023 #3
... brer cat Apr 2023 #4
It sounds negligent to me. Please keep us informed about your case. panader0 Apr 2023 #5
I am for what you are going through. What year did this occur? 33taw Apr 2023 #6
Five months ago leftieNanner Apr 2023 #20
I felt every word. Your brimming emotions are so very understandable. So sorry for your Ninga Apr 2023 #7
you're doing everything right. barbtries Apr 2023 #8
Hugs Duncanpup Apr 2023 #9
"5 months is like a minute...." Rorey Apr 2023 #25
thank you Rorey barbtries Apr 2023 #33
Anyone who has lost a loved one True Blue American Apr 2023 #36
I think you're doing fine, navigating the stages of grief. Go sinkingfeeling Apr 2023 #10
Its got to be tough enough to handle the death of your loving spouse, 70sEraVet Apr 2023 #11
Had never heard of sepsis KS Toronado Apr 2023 #12
I'm so sorry, Duncanpup Bayard Apr 2023 #13
That was no dyslexic ramble, my friend. It was an articulate indictment of a system that if it ... marble falls Apr 2023 #14
You feel anger, SpamWyzer Apr 2023 #15
Part of the club Rorey Apr 2023 #21
I hope you find a way to cope Marthe48 Apr 2023 #16
Beautiful post, Marthe48 Rorey Apr 2023 #18
I am SO sorry you're going through this Rorey Apr 2023 #17
I try to pass along what I can Marthe48 Apr 2023 #31
Sepsis is a common complication TexasBushwhacker Apr 2023 #47
Heartbreaking and alarming. pandr32 Apr 2023 #19
Sorry to hear this Puppyjive Apr 2023 #22
Looking at the Macro Problem..... McKim Apr 2023 #23
I'm so sorry you're going through all this. CaptainTruth Apr 2023 #24
We are here to vent to vent away. gibraltar72 Apr 2023 #26
Keep us posted on that. If you're older, they flat out turn you down no matter what you died of judesedit Apr 2023 #27
I am so sorry Goddessartist Apr 2023 #28
I'm so sorry XanaDUer2 Apr 2023 #29
Huggggggg, dear friend, and healing vibes. I can only guess at the depth of your niyad Apr 2023 #30
Sending a hug and strength democrank Apr 2023 #32
When you first posted the week she died. I knew you were in shock. tavernier Apr 2023 #34
'they never took blood' elleng Apr 2023 #35
Same thought here. JudyM Apr 2023 #40
I feel your pain. My late husband's doctor OMGWTF Apr 2023 #37
I can feel your pain Moostache Apr 2023 #38
Hopefully you'll have a good case bucolic_frolic Apr 2023 #39
Failure To Draw Blood Cultures? GB_RN Apr 2023 #41
I think so too, elleng Apr 2023 #45
First thing to do is draw blood. Quick, broad-spectrum diagnostic tool. JudyM Apr 2023 #50
Sounds like she passed right before Thanksgiving. calimary Apr 2023 #42
I'm so sorry for your loss and pain. LittleGirl Apr 2023 #43
Dear Duncanpup. MLAA Apr 2023 #44
I knew your wife passed but I had no idea you were going through this. The Jungle 1 Apr 2023 #46
I am so sorry cate94 Apr 2023 #48
So sorry. Scottie Mom Apr 2023 #49
It's good to press forward with this, see if the lawyers agree negligence was involved. JudyM Apr 2023 #51
We care about you, Duncanpup Wild blueberry Apr 2023 #52
I went through similar with my Mom. Total malpractice. I know the anger, the pain and the fight Evolve Dammit Apr 2023 #53
So sorry to hear. My son is an orthopedic surgery resident and I have always impressed upon him that Pepsidog Apr 2023 #54
So sorry for what you're going through. I hope you're able to hold those doctors accountable!! diva77 Apr 2023 #55
Sending hugs. We are here for you. love_katz Apr 2023 #56
((((hugs)))) Duncanpup. I hope you get the justice that you deserve. sueh Apr 2023 #57
Hugs and small advice Lithos Apr 2023 #58
Deepest condolences sir GeoWilliam750 Apr 2023 #59
I smiled when I read about Dunc having play dates with your new friend's Golden puppy ShazzieB Apr 2023 #62
.... sprinkleeninow Apr 2023 #64
Being single again sucks. I miss my Ilsa Apr 2023 #65
No advice to give runnergirl Apr 2023 #66
Hugs malaise Apr 2023 #67
My belated but sincere condolences on your loss of your wife Duncanpup. CentralMass May 2023 #68
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