Bereavement

barbtries

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45. I don't think there's a why.

Tue Feb 14, 2023, 07:57 PM

Feb 2023

I used to think that we got to find out after we died, but now I think we just stop being tormented by it.

the pain of siblings should never be discounted. My oldest son is going through a bad divorce right now and I said you need to do this even though it's the hardest thing you've ever done (get over her). And he immediately said it's not the hardest thing I've ever done, that was my sister being killed.

you just passed another anniversary and even when it's not a "big" one, for me anyway it always carries freight.

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Grief spasms. [View all] barbtries Jan 2023 OP

My heart hurts for you Barbtries. Duncanpup Jan 2023 #1

ditto Duncanpup. barbtries Jan 2023 #2

I am so sorry for your loss and the grief that never ends. LiberalLoner Jan 2023 #3

I love that quote. barbtries Jan 2023 #4

❤️🙏 LiberalLoner Jan 2023 #6

You are right---those who have not lost a child can't understand the profound grief and sadness Atticus Jan 2023 #5

absolutely Atticus. barbtries Jan 2023 #7

I'm sorry, Barbtries Bayard Jan 2023 #8

that is so, so sad. barbtries Jan 2023 #10

I was discussing this very issue with my therapist, last week Siwsan Jan 2023 #9

I see Grief as kind of a being. barbtries Jan 2023 #12

Sending you a hug Wild blueberry Jan 2023 #11

thank you Wild blueberry barbtries Jan 2023 #13

Sending you loving thoughts and hugs. MLAA Jan 2023 #14

Thank you MLAA! barbtries Jan 2023 #15

You are right Butterflylady Jan 2023 #16

oh Butterflylady. barbtries Jan 2023 #19

Hugs back mgardener Jan 2023 #17

i wish you weren't. barbtries Jan 2023 #20

❤️ littlemissmartypants Jan 2023 #18

thank you littlemisssmartypants barbtries Jan 2023 #21

Thank You, barb! Yes, ma'am. That's what I was told anyway. littlemissmartypants Jan 2023 #26

Breathe Deep mizogan Jan 2023 #22

good advice. barbtries Jan 2023 #24

Whenever you share what the loss of Bekah has been like for you MontanaMama Jan 2023 #23

thank you MontanaMama. barbtries Jan 2023 #25

oh barbtries, you must miss her so much! CTyankee Jan 2023 #27

yes. I want her back. barbtries Jan 2023 #29

There is a good thing and Daisy would have loved it! I have a grandchild born and named Dante and CTyankee Jan 2023 #34

the way I look at it, barbtries Jan 2023 #36

at her service her brother (my exhusband) said "Daisy always said I was the smart one in the family CTyankee Jan 2023 #37

lol barbtries Jan 2023 #38

He was actually surprised when he was served divorce papers. He said that was "cold." CTyankee Jan 2023 #39

well, you know, he's the smart one. barbtries Jan 2023 #40

Yeah, well this "smart one" divorced his lying ass...his girl friend ended up paying for his kids CTyankee Jan 2023 #41

Sending love and strength, Barbtries. momta Jan 2023 #28

Thank you momta. barbtries Jan 2023 #30

I too have lost a beloved daughter. SheltieLover Jan 2023 #31

SheltieLover barbtries Jan 2023 #32

I don't think there is a why, at least not one that makes any sense. 3catwoman3 Feb 2023 #44

I don't think there's a why. barbtries Feb 2023 #45

I have read all posts. My heart aches for all that have suffered loss. sprinkleeninow Feb 2023 #46

really no words markie Jan 2023 #33

markie, barbtries Jan 2023 #35

my sympathy to you Skittles Jan 2023 #42

Thank you. barbtries Jan 2023 #43