My son committed suicide 1/27--he was 25 years old

[soldierant]

98. I see that multiple people are saying, from various viewpoints,

that you should in no way blame yourself as it was in no way your fault.

I'd like to echo that from the viewpoint of a survivor. Yes, I have been there (and,fortunately, survived) and I can testify that when one is at that point, there is no room in one's head or heart for words, positive or negative, from loved ones, or, really for anything else at all. There is nothing but the pain, and even that is not associated with anything - it's just there.

I understand it is only too easy to think that, because you said something a short time before the event, what you said may have affected/propelled the event. It didn't. I promise you.

And, please, don't just take it from me. Listen to, and take the advice of, everyone who is telling you you are not at fault. Hear, read, and do everything you can, and everything you need, in order to believe it was not. your. fault.