My son committed suicide 1/27--he was 25 years old

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6. I am very sorry to hear that.

Post-mortem guilt--no matter how unwarranted-- is human and pretty normal. We've all experienced it--no matter the reasons behind a loved one's death. Me? That I never got to hear my Mom's last recorded answering machine message before it was inadvertently deleted (among many other things). I remember my Mom's best friend was forever tortured by her failure to cook her husband his favorite meal that he'd off-handedly requested three days before he had a fatal MI. It is things like this that get anchored in memory and unfortunately cause pain and guilt.

I've been reading excerpts from Jamie Raskin's book (Maryland Dem Congressman, Constitutional expert, and father to a rising legal scholar son and civil rights advocate who committed suicide just before the last Trump impeachment trial). His book "Unthinkable" is both cathartic and inspired. You might find it so as well.