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Bereavement
In reply to the discussion: Tough times [View all]flying_wahini
(8,074 posts)10. Grief hits all of us differently. Unexpected deaths really are much more
shocking to the system. I know I had prolonged grief after my Dad died unexpectedly.
It took me YEARS to get past the emotional pain. Not everyday, but
flashes of him would bring on very sentimental feelings that would leave me all weepy.
My Mom was in and out of hospitals but lived long enough to be considered Old.
I never missed her the way I missed my Dad. I knew she was not going to make it and I
Did my crying before she even died.
It sounds like you are missing her, which is normal. Especially since it has ONLY been a year and the Holidays make it all so up in your face painful.
I suggest going someplace that you both enjoyed. Maybe take an old friend of hers to lunch or
you can share her memory with someone else who knew her. A phone call to someone she loved would help keep her memory alive. Buy a Christmas gift for someone she loved. Go ahead and have a good cry.
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I feel so bad for you. I lost my mom over 30 years ago, I was 39 I still cry sometimes
Walleye
Nov 2021
#2
After several calls from Hospice, I finally called them 6 months after the death of my Mom.
beveeheart
Nov 2021
#24
I don't blame myself...but just question whether she could have fought back.
Drunken Irishman
Nov 2021
#29
I went through a similar situation, my mom passed three months ago, my dad many years ago
Escurumbele
Nov 2021
#25
Thank you. It was a long time ago. Daily life is easier, but I still tear up at times. I hope
GPV
Nov 2021
#60
You know, the grief never goes away, but trust me, son, you learn to live with it because...
NNadir
Nov 2021
#46
I, too, had to make the decision to put my mom in hospice. She lasted two weeks. She passed on 7
alwaysinasnit
Nov 2021
#49
Awwwww, sweetie, I'm so sorry about this. So sorry about this struggle you have to face.
calimary
Nov 2021
#55