My daughter died 20 years ago today.

[PoindexterOglethorpe]

84. No matter how it happens, it's devastating.

That is so true.

A week or or so ago I got a check from a bank he'd had an account with. They decided they'd overcharged his account, and sent me a check for $69.50, the amount of the overcharge.

I went to my own local bank, along with a print out of my designation as his beneficiary. The wonderful personal banker looked briefly at the printouts I had and was happy to cash that check. I chatted with her about my loss. She was wonderful. I think perhaps she'd had some kind of similar loss. In any case, she was accommodating, recognized my loss, cashed the check. I told her a bit about my son, and she acknowledged my loss. We hugged at the end of everything.

I have many times been in awe of people who understand my loss.