Bereavement

Marthe48

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38. I am sorry for your loss

Reply to central scrutinizer (Reply #34)

Tue Jan 26, 2021, 05:31 PM

Jan 2021

When we find someone who fills all of the spaces in our heart and soul, the loss is hard to overcome. I found one of John's cardiograms, a printout from about 2001. I was so comforted by having it, I found a picture of him that I liked, mounted the picture on the cardiogram and framed it. I keep that one on my dresser, near the urn.

We collected the whole time we were married, so the whole house is full of things we bought or got for presents, or belonged to family members. I can look at things and remember details of when we bought it, and I'm afraid that telling our kids where and when we got something might be boring. Who knows, they miss him as much as I do and maybe they get comfort knowing home is still home and full of good memories.

Thank you for posting, central scrutinizer. We are in a club no one wants to join. Take care of yourself.

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It has been 4 years since my husband died [View all] Marthe48 Jan 2021 OP

It does take time. safeinOhio Jan 2021 #1

I wish you well Botany Jan 2021 #2

The wine dark sea Marthe48 Jan 2021 #17

You are clearly very brave and very strong. I have no useful advice, just a (((((Marthe48))))). niyad Jan 2021 #3

Thank you :) Marthe48 Jan 2021 #18

Much love to you. redwitch Jan 2021 #4

Always glad when i hear stories like this Marthe48 Jan 2021 #19

Make a shrine to him SheltieLover Jan 2021 #5

Good idea... Karadeniz Jan 2021 #9

oh, SheltieLover Marthe48 Jan 2021 #20

It's tough, but you will eventually move on and not have memories dominate your life. Frustratedlady Jan 2021 #6

I changed bedrooms and other things Marthe48 Jan 2021 #21

My former boyfriend died suddenly in Oct Wawannabe Jan 2021 #7

My deepest sympathy to you Marthe48 Jan 2021 #22

However you manage to get through this TNNurse Jan 2021 #8

I lost my dad when I was 20 Marthe48 Jan 2021 #23

When my died died there were three of us at home TNNurse Jan 2021 #26

It is hard for people to understand Marthe48 Jan 2021 #29

One has to wonder if those were dreams or visitations... Karadeniz Jan 2021 #10

I think we are seeing each other Marthe48 Jan 2021 #16

They say the differences between dreams and visitations are that visitations are much clearer and Karadeniz Jan 2021 #40

I think everyone that loses a loved one like you shares the same pain. cstanleytech Jan 2021 #11

I do better if someone is really old Marthe48 Jan 2021 #30

Wishing you sweet memories of your beloved husband. Danmel Jan 2021 #12

Thank you Marthe48 Jan 2021 #24

It's not always easy to accept death as a part of life. Harker Jan 2021 #13

No it doesn't Marthe48 Jan 2021 #25

My experience with grief is that it never goes away, but... NNadir Jan 2021 #14

Better to have loved and lost Marthe48 Jan 2021 #27

Your post contains a lot of hope, Marthe. BobTheSubgenius Jan 2021 #15

Thank you Marthe48 Jan 2021 #28

My heart goes out to you Kimber432 Jan 2021 #31

Thank you Marthe48 Jan 2021 #32

Dear Martha48 gademocrat7 Jan 2021 #33

Thank you Marthe48 Jan 2021 #37

The fourth anniversary of my wife's death is a month away central scrutinizer Jan 2021 #34

I am sorry for your loss Marthe48 Jan 2021 #38

maybe instead of putting pics away- mopinko Jan 2021 #35

Sending you love and peace... Freedomofspeech Jan 2021 #36

Thank you Marthe48 Jan 2021 #39

So sorry for your pain but I completely understand. littlemissmartypants Jan 2021 #41

I'm sorry for your loss Marthe48 Jan 2021 #42