Bereavement

dem in texas

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77. So sorry for you and your sons.

Fri Dec 14, 2018, 05:17 PM

Dec 2018

don't feel guilty about leaving him, you did the right thing. you tried as hard as you could and it did not help. He was on a path to destruction and nothing you could have done would have helped and you needed to save yourself. I hope your sons can see this
As far as the house and closing down the estate, that happens to everyone, no matter how they died. If he did not leave a will and you feel like things can get messy, I would hire an attorney to close out the estate. I have been down that road tying to help my mother.

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