I'm officially a widow as of this afternoon--update

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34. Oh my. I don't know what to say.

Words just seem so inadequate sometimes. I have followed your story regarding your marital situation as I shared the details of mine with you. I am so shocked to hear this news and know that you were already dealing with so much. It's almost too much to bear, but please know that I'm sending good vibes your way. Even though we've never met, your DU "tribe" is here to help in any way they can.

My ex threatened suicide several times when we were going through the divorce, not to me because we weren't on speaking terms, but to his two grown children. It was an awful burden to lay on them. They knew he had an arsenal in his house, so it was doubly concerning. He had mental issues also but of course wouldn't admit that he did nor would he get help for them.

Please take care of yourself. You deserve to be taken care of. Keep your loved ones close and let your friends help you in any way you need.

Take care and I am so sorry.