Bereavement

TreasonousBastard

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5. It's OK to feel that way. And it does take time...

Sat Sep 15, 2018, 10:03 PM

Sep 2018

My mother passed 4 years ago and I still miss her.

My father passed over 50 years ago and I still think of him.

But, this is the natural order of things, and it has nothing to do with being her caretaker. You miss her because she was your mother and she cannot be replaced. Even as sick as she was, she was still there with you, and now she is not.

Be strong. And remember that no matter how terrible it seems, this is the way it is supposed to be.

Can you take a vacation? Maybe a cruise? A week, or weekend, in London? Even Montreal or a beach in Mexico? A change of scenery is not disrespecting her, and might do you a world of good after all the services and paperwork is done.

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My mom passed away last night... [View all] cynatnite Sep 2018 OP

Om Mani Padme Hum WhiteTara Sep 2018 #1

My condolences left-of-center2012 Sep 2018 #2

cynatnite, I am so sorry for your loss. badhair77 Sep 2018 #3

You are worn out and grieving. My condolences. Take some time for you when you are ready. CurtEastPoint Sep 2018 #4

It's OK to feel that way. And it does take time... TreasonousBastard Sep 2018 #5

I wish there were an easy way to get thru loss and grief. dixiegrrrrl Sep 2018 #6

Sad for your loss. I'd never dream to give advice about grief. IADEMO2004 Sep 2018 #7

The cycles of life.. Permanut Sep 2018 #8

Oh no. So, so sorry, Dear cynatnite. Laffy Kat Sep 2018 #9

I'm glad to see you here, my dear cynatnite... CaliforniaPeggy Sep 2018 #10

When I lost my mother I was 24 and one thought transformed my grief lostnfound Sep 2018 #11

This is beautiful easttexaslefty Sep 2018 #14

I am sorry for your loss Gothmog Sep 2018 #12

i'm so sorry orleans Sep 2018 #13

I lost my mother this August Farmer-Rick Nov 2018 #15

My sister thought I would feel relief... cynatnite Nov 2018 #16

💔 Stellar Dec 2018 #17

I was not a regular on this group when you posted this originally. susanna Apr 2019 #18