I found this really excellent article on Grief on Facebook, and wanted to share it:

[hollysmom]

5. it is hard because her children do love me

But she tortured my mother and would not let her see her grandchildren and sent police to her house in the middle of the night and would come late at night and scream in front of my mother's neighbors how horrible a person she was. She also entered my house multiple times and stole things years ago and of course lied about it. Once, she even wore a blouse that went missing from my house in front of me.
And now her kids are hanging on to me claiming we were on happy family, you do not take restraining orders out of lved family members. But I will suck it up and be there for her kids and not tell them about the things she did.