A couple of Geminis........

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3. a hug from a nicer gemini is in order.

narcissistic shits come in all colors. and no, our Pollox natures do not excuse their behavior at all. good thing you recognize the signs that you "give off a victim scent." saves you from many wasted years. how to "deodorize" yourself, that I don't know yet.

sounds like you need to fine tune your "no!" voice to nip these parasites before they latch on too deep.

thankfully it kicked in with boundaries. remember, boundaries are also about preserving feelings, such as keeping healthy ones away from depraved ones. good thing your "what you suggest is sick, taking an insurance policy on my husband 'just in case'," and "no calling my husband an 'evil motherfucker'" boundary served you well here.

might i suggest treating yourself and your husband to a night out on the town amid friendly strangers? less obligation from the distance, keep it cordial yet mostly anonymous. gets some refreshing new energy in your lives.