My dad died this afternoon.

[Ilsa]

19. No, it's okay.

And I know from personal experience how grief can bring out buried and residual anger from being mistreated. And sometimes parents play favorites, not realizing the bitterness and resentment they leave behind. I had a parent pass away within the last few years, leaving a mess of a sibling for the rest of us.

I think you've done just fine in honoring your parents the way others would expect. There isn't much more you can do. She may have set up the funeral this way in hopes you couldn't be there in time. That would give her reason to criticize you to others.

Good luck and safe traveling!