My dad died this afternoon.

[Ilsa]

11. I'm very sorry for your loss.

You could try calling the pastor to see if there is any way to push back the service by one day, but I doubt you'll get very far. The pastor will see you as someone without authority to make changes. You should warn him, though, of an expected sparse turnout, and you might want to have a count on how many will miss because of the quick service.

It sounds like your mother is exhausted and wants to move on, and that is why she is rushing things without consideration of other bereaved people. as sad as she must be, I suspect she is relieved that his suffering has ended, and that she's not putting her life on old any more. At least, that's what other widows have told me.

The pastor sees an involved member that is dead and gone, and a spouse who may have to limit her contributions. The rest of you are probably unimportant to him. Yeah, I don't like a lot of ministers.

Please hang in there. You might try having your own private "service" to celebrate his life and say goodbye.