My dad died this afternoon.

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3. I'm very sorry to hear this, murielm99.

I dealt with a similar event last month. My husband, estranged but we'd been in touch recently, passed on. He was in his apartment, where I found him, tho his doctor had, I learned from the medical examiner, suggested hospice. Neither I nor our daughters knew that he was terminally ill. We are still in shock.

I had to do the negotiating about where and when, with daughters and his brother who had been in touch with his siblings. From what I can tell, such issues are very common among families, logistics about where and when to do funeral-related services and who makes the decisions. I'm hoping that no one will complain about what we decided, down the road, and 'plan' to ignore such if it occurs. Its clear that no arrangement can satisfy everyone who might want to attend, so its best if we all do what we can.

It was fine visiting with friends and family, and I hope doing so helps you, finally, appreciate the services you do have.