this is a major, major eclipse

[Why Syzygy]

4. I learned that..

someone who tore my life apart has gone on to create a brand new, happy, sparkly life, while I have remained stuck.
It was just the ticket to get my attention back on creating my own life.
Or not. But the curiosity of 'what ever happened to' is answered.

I reckon I am doing more of what you say, "making choices again about who you want to be". Exactly.
Never doubt. When we make those choices, things happen.