I am moving

[Tomconroy]

17. There is an ideal solution,

But apparently only for the well to do. In my area they are called continuum of care facilities. The idea is you pay a big chunk of change up front and get an apartment. The bigger the change, the bigger the place. Then for a fairly fixed monthly fee you would get whatever you needed. You would get assisted living when you needed it. They had a memory care unit, a nursing home unit, all covered by the same monthly fee. It is run on a non profit basis so the fees don't go up too much each year. There is even a charity fund to help those who run out of money

Unfortunately, the fees may be beyond our reach. I don't suppose the concept could be translated into something for the less well off.