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txwhitedove

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17. Help! Grandma raising 2 grandkids, 11 and 5 (birthdays in March). They've been with me 4-years now.
Thu Feb 21, 2013, 07:58 PM
Feb 2013

Granddaughter just got first pair of glasses and we're hoping this helps when school tests her for dyslexia.

Right now I'm furious because suddenly Zeke's teacher has the whole school spying/reporting on him for daily behaviour report. Cafeteria lady a.m, class, P.E., Cafeteria lady p.m., class.... Lunch lady said he ignored her when told to get fruit or vegetable. Personally, as much and as well as he eats, thats none of their business. Even his sister said she would be mad if she thought everyone was reporting on her like this. Damn. Why did they just start now? Why did he get an average 2+ out of 4 all year til now? When they said the write-ups may go on the district computer (ie PERMANENT RECORD), I said "he's only 5"! I have always taken their messages seriously, but again he's only 5. A "Baby Huey" 5. Big baby, big boy tall for his age, but not mature by any means. I admit he's a handful. He came to me 4-yrs ago screaming about everything. As he grew and learned to communicate, the screaming subsided but he's very concerning with being in control. I read a book on ADHD the first year he lived with me. In my eyes, he is so much better now. I told the school that drugs are a no-go, absolute last option but that upset them. They seem determined to push it in that direction. Working full-time means I don't have enough time to concentrate on his issues. This last year kids have gone to stay with their mom for weekends to give me a break, but mom lets him run wild and just yells at him. I'm at my wits end.

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Okay. No posts. Nobody's frustrated with parenting? Let's wake up the group. HopeHoops Mar 2012 #1
I agree, parenting is tough. Ruby Reason Mar 2012 #2
It's not a ramble. If you say you know what to do, you're full of shit. HopeHoops Mar 2012 #3
So you have a few ladies you feel need an apology? Ruby Reason Mar 2012 #4
Not at the moment. When I'm wrong I admit it and deal with the apology then. HopeHoops Mar 2012 #5
I wasn't reffering to your daughters... Ruby Reason Mar 2012 #6
I'm still trying to track a few down. HopeHoops Mar 2012 #7
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I just joined this group, along with three others. HelpmeHelp Aug 2012 #9
teenagers becoming adults... steve2470 Aug 2012 #10
I wasn't exactly a piece of cake on a plate with a scoop of ice cream. HopeHoops Aug 2012 #11
My 16 year old son is very easy, compared to many others steve2470 Aug 2012 #12
I was just freaked out when I told my mom I was stoned all to Jesus for ten years. HopeHoops Aug 2012 #13
Best wishes with your kids steve2470 Aug 2012 #14
Seriously, I'd say mine are easy. We set down solid rules early on and eventually didn't have... HopeHoops Aug 2012 #15
Help! Grandma raising 2 grandkids, 11 and 5 (birthdays in March). They've been with me 4-years now. txwhitedove Feb 2013 #17
Happy Spring! I am so grateful for this awesome support group, and can tell ya'll can't wait to txwhitedove Mar 2013 #18
Hi, I've never posted in here because Bettie Jun 2017 #19
It usually does get better. PoindexterOglethorpe Jul 2017 #20
Thank you so much Bettie Jul 2017 #21
How about adult in-laws? Marthe48 Sep 2021 #23
Wish and hope for a happy outcome Marthe48 Dec 2021 #24
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