My wife is 40 yr old, obese, and has been diagnosed with diabetes, which she is ignoring.

[Doodley]

19. You talk as if she is dead. "I miss my wife's companionship." The story you tell about your wife is

repeated millions of times, sometimes self-inflicted, sometimes not. People get ill, they get weak, sometimes through bad luck. sometimes because they don't feel good about themselves and taking care of themselves isn't top of their minds. There is nothing unique about your situation. You say you love her. What does that mean to you? You talk as if she has gone and what is left is not enough. I hope you treat her with more sensitivity than is coming across. The very idea that you sleep in separate rooms says a lot. Ever heard of earphones or ear plugs? Ever heard of just sucking it up? You can hear my wife the other side of the house. There's no way I would sleep elsewhere. It would be cruel and appear judgmental. Your problems are a lot deeper.