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Pro-Choice

PoindexterOglethorpe

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17. I hope so.

Reply to CTyankee (Reply #16)

Sun Jan 8, 2017, 11:12 PM

Jan 2017

When my sons were in their early teens, I told them that if they got a girl pregnant, in the end it was absolutely her choice about whether or not to have the baby. She might decide to have a baby they didn't want. She might decide to abort, or give up for adoption, a baby they very much wanted. In the end it was her body, her decision, and as unfair as it was (and let's not pretend that it's anything but unfair in many cases) she had the final say.

Even within the context of a marriage I believe that.

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I have been counseling a male friend on understanding his first wife's abortion. [View all] CTyankee Jan 2017 OP

Men think because childbirth is natural it is risk free and easy Warpy Jan 2017 #1

He is not insensitive. He feels terribly for her situation. CTyankee Jan 2017 #4

I think you've laid it out really well. CaliforniaPeggy Jan 2017 #2

Right, good point, elleng Jan 2017 #3

I want him to understand that even if he would have raised the child it was not his decision to make CTyankee Jan 2017 #7

Very sad, but you are right to help him, elleng Jan 2017 #8

He has the right to mourn the child. Iris Feb 2017 #18

You might suggest he read one of the memoirs about bipolar, s-cubed Jan 2017 #5

You are so right. He has to come to terms with her illness. CTyankee Jan 2017 #9

So can a wanted pregnancy Freddie Jan 2017 #13

I have a good friend who had postpartum psychosis. It was horrible. She got locked up in Yale new CTyankee Jan 2017 #14

I think he should be thankful to have the daughters. Buckeye_Democrat Jan 2017 #6

I think he had to fight to get custody. CTyankee Jan 2017 #10

I knew a guy who fought for custody of his son after his ex-wife... Buckeye_Democrat Jan 2017 #11

terrible situation. Nobody is truly happy... CTyankee Jan 2017 #12

Given that he was afraid she would try to hurt the daughters, PoindexterOglethorpe Jan 2017 #15

I tried. I hoped I got thru. I know he trusts my opinion... CTyankee Jan 2017 #16

I hope so. PoindexterOglethorpe Jan 2017 #17