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Kath1

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87. Conversation with her mom today did not go well. I got a tongue lashing.

Sun Jan 3, 2016, 03:07 PM

Jan 2016

Looks like she'll be staying with my daughter and her BF until she goes back to college. If this woman ever calms down, I'll tell her, THIS WAS YOUR DAUGHTER'S DECISION: She’s in her 20's. She goes to school out of state. She had sex and got pregnant. The only thing that involves you is that you are paying her college tuition. You need to put away your poor little hurt feelings and look at this in a realistic way. I don’t care how close your relationship with your daughter was (or how close you think it was). The fact is that she found herself pregnant with a pro-life mother who she obviously didn’t feel comfortable talking to, and for good reason. So she handled the situation in the way that best suited HER life, not yours. Why do you feel betrayed? Because she went against your personal beliefs? In the end, she has to do what’s best for her life and having a child now does not fit into that equation. If you continue to struggle with this, that’s your own problem. Get counseling, get a good stiff drink or whatever will help you get a grip. It’s over. Get over it.

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My daughter's friend just had an abortion. [View all] Kath1 Jan 2016 OP

Thank you for being with her kimbutgar Jan 2016 #1

Thank you. Kath1 Jan 2016 #2

tell her to read numbers 5 verses 11 to 33 roguevalley Jan 2016 #29

Oh baby, that is the first time that I have read that. peace13 Jan 2016 #57

and along the way, may the masses take back what God offers, unconditional love. roguevalley Jan 2016 #85

Wow. Just wow. Am I to understand that as condoning some form of abortion "by the will of God"? JonLeibowitz Jan 2016 #77

here is my take on this. People make their own way and some use God as their shield against roguevalley Jan 2016 #84

No kidding. Thanks for this. JonLeibowitz Jan 2016 #86

score, Jon :D roguevalley Jan 2016 #95

You are wonderful. roody Jan 2016 #3

Not really. Kath1 Jan 2016 #4

Everyone in the pro-choice movement is wonderful, IMO. Kath1 Jan 2016 #7

You are doing a wonderful thing. snacker Jan 2016 #5

It will be! Kath1 Jan 2016 #10

You did the right thing. Triana Jan 2016 #6

My daughter and her have been friends since grade school. Kath1 Jan 2016 #8

Was she not on birth control or using protection? bunnies Jan 2016 #9

Condom broke, from what I know. Kath1 Jan 2016 #11

Poor girl. bunnies Jan 2016 #12

My son has a friend who was pregnant recently. notadmblnd Jan 2016 #55

There are two forms. One is "the morning after pill", which prevents conception occurring still_one Jan 2016 #78

It must have been the later notadmblnd Jan 2016 #83

I don't think a lot of people are aware of their options still_one Jan 2016 #93

I don't know what this girl was doing or thinking. Kath1 Jan 2016 #81

The details are immaterial at this point. She had an issue, and made a decision how to deal with it still_one Jan 2016 #76

I am sure they covered that at PP after her procedure. She might have made a mistake CTyankee Jan 2016 #89

No problem. Kath1 Jan 2016 #13

You are going to text the parents TeddyR Jan 2016 #15

I intend to and I will. Kath1 Jan 2016 #16

Good for you ejbr Jan 2016 #20

I intend to tell them she needs them now more than ever. Kath1 Jan 2016 #24

I applaud you for your plans to write that text CoffeeCat Jan 2016 #63

I intend to tell them they are at the crossroads. Kath1 Jan 2016 #64

I can imagine that wont be an easy conversation to have. bunnies Jan 2016 #44

I am going to try my best to be calm. Kath1 Jan 2016 #47

Not telling you what you what to say... peace13 Jan 2016 #60

I will, my friend. Kath1 Jan 2016 #62

You *do* know no birth control is 100% effective dorkzilla Jan 2016 #19

What is the chance of getting pregnant while on birth control and using a condom? bunnies Jan 2016 #46

WHO CARES? Moralize somewhere else please???? dorkzilla Jan 2016 #48

+100000000 nashville_brook Jan 2016 #52

i did not see "moralizing" questionseverything Jan 2016 #92

Things go "wrong" in the world all the time despite the best of intentions and precautions. Hissyspit Jan 2016 #69

Higher than the chance of dying from influenza. Yet we give out flu shots, don't we? (nt) jeff47 Jan 2016 #72

Condoms can slip off, low dose BC pills CAN fail. They did for me. peacebird Jan 2016 #79

OCs don't always work and address contraindicated for many women. uppityperson Jan 2016 #88

Statement of Purpose of Pro-Choice group. uppityperson Jan 2016 #90

It doesn't matter what the chances are if you're the exception. Ilsa Jan 2016 #100

birth control can and does fail. SheilaT Jan 2016 #50

BC does fail, unfortunately. Kath1 Jan 2016 #75

even the best birth control has failure rates. Ilsa Jan 2016 #99

will never understand a parent choosing their religion over their own child rurallib Jan 2016 #14

Thank you. Kath1 Jan 2016 #17

Quick, painless, and guilt free yellerpup Jan 2016 #18

She is so fortunate to have friends like you and your daughter n/t sarge43 Jan 2016 #21

My Catholic RW mother was, in the end, VERY supportive when I had mine 30 years ago dorkzilla Jan 2016 #22

Thank you! Kath1 Jan 2016 #25

Please PM me if you’d like to give her my personal contact info dorkzilla Jan 2016 #34

Thanks so much for your caring. Kath1 Jan 2016 #35

You’re welcome dorkzilla Jan 2016 #49

Thank you. Kath1 Jan 2016 #51

Marta and I have done escort duty at two different clinics in the area Omaha Steve Jan 2016 #23

Thank you for doing the right thing. Kath1 Jan 2016 #28

Way to go, Kath! Enthusiast Jan 2016 #26

Thank you. SusanCalvin Jan 2016 #27

Thank you! Kath1 Jan 2016 #32

was it cool and liberal? Skittles Jan 2016 #30

??? Hissyspit Jan 2016 #67

... Skittles Jan 2016 #68

Oh. Hissyspit Jan 2016 #70

I wonder what it will be next Skittles Jan 2016 #71

Thank you leanforward Jan 2016 #31

Her body, her life. her decision. Kath1 Jan 2016 #33

You are a good human blondie58 Jan 2016 #36

It was my responsibility. Kath1 Jan 2016 #37

Thank you. GoCubsGo Jan 2016 #38

I think so, too. Kath1 Jan 2016 #40

That was a wonderful thing you did. historylovr Jan 2016 #39

Thanks. Kath1 Jan 2016 #41

thank you for caring for the girl dembotoz Jan 2016 #42

Thank you. Kath1 Jan 2016 #43

She's 22 and having sex with a person tavernier Jan 2016 #45

WOW!! Really? What a brave keyboard warrior you are! dorkzilla Jan 2016 #56

Thank you. Kath1 Jan 2016 #58

You’re welcome, Kath. dorkzilla Jan 2016 #59

Thanks again. Kath1 Jan 2016 #61

Welcome to 2016. It's a wee bit different from when you grew up. (nt) jeff47 Jan 2016 #73

You are calling a 22 yr old a "child who plays with matches" for having sex? No comment about her uppityperson Jan 2016 #91

My comment is for her and HIM. tavernier Jan 2016 #94

You sound around the same age as me, of perhaps raised with the idea that you don't have random sex uppityperson Jan 2016 #97

Nose bleeds tazkcmo Jan 2016 #102

that is an absurdly good line dembotoz Jan 2016 #104

Kath, thanks for being there. peace13 Jan 2016 #53

Thanks for the caring words. Kath1 Jan 2016 #54

Kath1, you are kick ass more ways than 1. rusty quoin Jan 2016 #65

Thank you... Kath1 Jan 2016 #66

I understand, but as an observer I agree with what you are doing. rusty quoin Jan 2016 #74

Thanks for standing with the young woman -and for sharing riversedge Jan 2016 #80

Thank you for doing the right thing Gothmog Jan 2016 #82

Conversation with her mom today did not go well. I got a tongue lashing. Kath1 Jan 2016 #87

Sorry that didn’t go well. dorkzilla Jan 2016 #96

I knew it would not. Kath1 Jan 2016 #98

The fact that you tried to reason with your daughter's friend' mother is amazing Gothmog Jan 2016 #103

I paid for one. tazkcmo Jan 2016 #101