What's the best way to deal with help rejecting complainers?

[mopinko]

3. as the child of a brilliant alcoholic, i learned early on

that some people just are focused on the bad things that happen to them, and they will take you down w them if you let them.

my dad had a wonderful wife, and 7 great kids, some of whom he saw as worthless, even tho they were anything but.
he never got over the crash of his childhood dream that slipped through his hands.
he did so much damage w this crush he had on his rage, this unhealing wound.

we all had to shut him out to some extent. most of us shut him out altogether.
i managed, in my 60's to let go of the bad parts and cherish the good parts, but it was really a matter of landing, unexpectedly, in a place where the things he gave me became my life.

in the end, you have to save yourself. that is what he taught me.