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Mental Health Support

Still Blue in PDX

(1,999 posts) Tue Feb 17, 2015, 08:19 AM Feb 2015

Not sure if I'm a loner or shy to the point of it being a disability. [View all]

I've spent a lifetime (I'm 60, so that's a considerable length of time) telling myself I'm just a loner, but if that was true, why am I so miserably lonely?

OTOH, if I wasn't a loner, why would I be emotionally drained by groups of people, even when those people are my grown children and their families?

Maybe I'm just too lazy to put the effort into maintaining relationships.

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Not sure if I'm a loner or shy to the point of it being a disability. [View all] Still Blue in PDX Feb 2015 OP

Are you seeing anyone for depression or for how you're feeling? polly7 Feb 2015 #1

In terms of being with other people, family, -- may or not apply-- Hoppy Feb 2015 #2

I always focus on others thoughts, ideas, ambitions, etc. polly7 Feb 2015 #3

I always felt secure at work and could deal with people one-on-one as a trainer. Still Blue in PDX Feb 2015 #6

LOL .... well at least they wanted to meet you every time! polly7 Feb 2015 #7

:) nt Still Blue in PDX Feb 2015 #9

--- directed at o.p. Again, I am just throwing stuff out. Hoppy Feb 2015 #11

I have read a bit about Asperger's and sort of wondered if that's at play. Still Blue in PDX Feb 2015 #13

you sound like me. mopinko Feb 2015 #4

I have had a diagnosis of depression in the past. Still Blue in PDX Feb 2015 #5

ya gotta do what you gotta do. mopinko Feb 2015 #8

I hate my meds, but I've long since abandoned all hope of "fix myself." hunter Feb 2015 #10

Thank Gods for advocates. Still Blue in PDX Feb 2015 #14

This message was self-deleted by its author olddots Feb 2015 #12

I get drained too... PasadenaTrudy Feb 2015 #15

Introversion is not an illness! Susannah Elf Apr 2015 #16