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9. you and your parents need some seperation

Sun Aug 18, 2013, 05:24 PM

Aug 2013

You sound like you really really need to strike out on your own one small amount at a time , your parents will get a " life " and so will you.

You have been kind of your parents parent lately because you have matured while people their age stew in their stuff ( I know this because I am their age ) It doesn't sound too toxic yet but it doesn't sound too healthy , with a good family therapist ( a good one ) the goal of you leaving your parent's home can be pieced together ,it's scary but better than living where the vibes get worse and worse .

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I have an enmeshed personality with my father. [View all] Locut0s Aug 2013 OP

isn't that common to certain extents ? olddots Aug 2013 #1

I think you mean just being close to your parents... Locut0s Aug 2013 #2

if you do therapy with your parents make sure the therapist has good record with family therapy olddots Aug 2013 #3

Thanks dots... Locut0s Aug 2013 #7

olddots mentioned boundaries Tobin S. Aug 2013 #4

Thanks Tobin... Locut0s Aug 2013 #6

Another explanation... Locut0s Aug 2013 #5

I understand that perfectly Tobin S. Aug 2013 #8

you and your parents need some seperation olddots Aug 2013 #9

Thanks dots!... Locut0s Aug 2013 #11

Kahlil Gibran's "On Children" No Vested Interest Aug 2013 #10

Thank you NVI... Locut0s Aug 2013 #12

Glad to know your trip went well. No Vested Interest Aug 2013 #13

my advice is do not use your own therapist. mopinko Aug 2013 #14

Sorry I'm not clear on the difference... Locut0s Aug 2013 #15

if you do therapy with your family, use a different therapist. mopinko Aug 2013 #16

Ahh I see, yes thanks that's a good idea. Locut0s Sep 2013 #19

I identify with your post somewhat but I used to be very resentful of both my parents for being so Maraya1969 Sep 2013 #17

Thank you very much for the kind post Maraya!!... Locut0s Sep 2013 #18