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Mental Health Support

Model35mech

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11. I can imagine

Reply to XanaDUer2 (Reply #9)

Tue Jul 16, 2024, 01:04 PM

Jul 2024

The downside of that, is my partner believes it's me being abusive rather than defensive.

I know from earlier efforts at therapy where the therapists tend to side.

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It shouldn't be like this. Really. I shouldn't take it personal but I did and I still do [View all] Model35mech Jul 2024 OP

I strongly suggest breaking up with this person. Ocelot II Jul 2024 #1

Ain't likely to happen. If I was 30, maybe. But at 71 NOT. Model35mech Jul 2024 #3

Money versus your health. tazkcmo Jul 2024 #23

At 71, survival cannot be separated from a person's assets. Model35mech Jul 2024 #25

You do you, as they say. tazkcmo Jul 2024 #26

It's ok. I appreciate your desire to help Model35mech Jul 2024 #28

Venting always helps. Even if you only do it in your head. SlimJimmy Jul 2024 #31

Thanks for your grace. tazkcmo Jul 2024 #32

I'm really sorry 😞 FirstLight Jul 2024 #2

This Is Abuse Deep State Witch Jul 2024 #4

My advice is have it out with her tell her how you feel and if she doesn't stop, something is gonna change Walleye Jul 2024 #5

Your boundaries are up to you to set. Think. Again. Jul 2024 #6

Your partner sounds like a bully crimycarny Jul 2024 #7

And you are with her why? flying_wahini Jul 2024 #8

Because I Am The AssHole, I suppose Model35mech Jul 2024 #10

I avoid interaction XanaDUer2 Jul 2024 #33

I'm yelled at constantly XanaDUer2 Jul 2024 #9

I can imagine Model35mech Jul 2024 #11

I'm disabled stuck not having enough XanaDUer2 Jul 2024 #13

I wish your endurance the best Model35mech Jul 2024 #15

Have you tried couples therapy? WhiteTara Jul 2024 #12

Ya, it's all about skills and coping tactics Model35mech Jul 2024 #17

I'm sorry. orange jar Jul 2024 #14

Thanks. I guess I'm looking to dump this feeling so I should apologize Model35mech Jul 2024 #18

No need to apologize. orange jar Jul 2024 #19

I recommend couples therapy, and if she won't do it.. Proud to be Woke Jul 2024 #16

That'd be great if I could toss more than half of my life in a dumpster Model35mech Jul 2024 #21

It sounds to me as if she is very unhappy with herself. It is easier to lash out at you than to look in the mirror. LoisB Jul 2024 #20

Just curious. Is she a heavy drinker? I was married to an alcoholic wife for 15 years. BamaRefugee Jul 2024 #22

No. IMO, her problem is a lot of being a childlike 76 year old Model35mech Jul 2024 #24

When she starts- calmly put your hand up & say, Quakerfriend Jul 2024 #27

Is there anyway you get away from her for a few days? MLAA Jul 2024 #29

I 'could' go sleep in the woods. I don't think I will. Model35mech Jul 2024 #30