Situations have formed the 'perfect storm' for triggering my anxiety

[Siwsan]

3. We aren't doing a traditional Thanksgiving

The original plan was my nephew and his new bride were going to host it at their 'new' house. Unfortunately, his father his father's toxic S.O. will be there so both my brother and I declined the invitation.

She's been so disrespectful to me, my brother and my late sister's memory that I refuse to have anything to do with her, and because of her we are now estranged from my former brother in law. It's sad because for 30+ years, I've thought of him as a brother.

My new niece thought this would be the perfect opportunity to bring the 'family' back together. She should have checked with her sister in law. The S.O. is not, and will never be, family.

Just as I predicted, the S.O. is taking over everything and the kids are starting to regret this plan. They've decided to go through with it, but they are coming to my house on Saturday to deep fry a turkey and we will have a relaxed meal, some good wine and I can get filled in on how the Thursday meal went.