well, file this a.m. under-

[hunter]

5. Some doctors blamed my mom for both my asthma and my autistic spectrum stuff.

Sad thing is I probably inherited both of those tendencies from my dad and there wasn't much of anything my parents could have done to change that.

The truly crazy stuff I inherited from my mom's parents. They were wild things. In too many ways my mom had to raise herself, which is probably why, seeking some kind of structure in her life, she turned to religion as a young adult. She was a Jehovah's Witness when I was a kid until they booted her out because she wouldn't stay out of politics. After that we were Quakers. My mom is a Pacifist Catholic Social Justice Warrior at heart. In our family we joke that we are pacifists by necessity, not by any natural inclination.

My parents are both artists who had day jobs until they retired and became full time artists.

Sorry about your troubles. I have one brother with intractable mental health issues who is always making trouble of one sort or another.

Knowing what kind of trouble I myself was (and occasionally still am) there's not much my parents could have done to change his path.