Revisiting Boundaries to sort self out after job loss

[usonian]

10. K&R This is important, and we (I) need to be reminded every day. Bookmarking!

It's easy to go into "rant mode", but
• One can learn from facts, regardless of the emotion they may invoke.
• Look for root causes. The pic above mentions codependency
-- There are behaviors similar to codependency, a whole spectrum of them (*)
• Writing things down is good.
-- Reviewing them may reveal some flops we have made, and suggest positive actions.


(*) I learned a lot from books by Anne Wilson Schaef.
-- The Addictive Organization
-- When Society Becomes and Addict
Her books
https://annewilsonschaef.com/books/page/2/

There is a pdf of "Addictive Systems", an excerpt of her work.
www.theway.org.uk/back/40Schaef.pdf

The behaviors described are *very* similar to the cult behavior exhibited by the GQP, notable mainly for "projection". casting aspersions on others which are the very fears and inadequacies experienced by the accuser. "Every Accusation is a Confession", and blame, blame, blame.

Powerful stuff.

Why are so many destructive behaviors so similar?
In my opinion, because they exploit the same human reactions we all have. We can override the limbic "fight or flight" reaction with reason. That is why in cults, the first thing to go is reason, and the first thing to blast is emotional
reaction.

Related:
https://democraticunderground.com/100217409345
Why Public Schools are on the GOP's Hit List

Thanks for posting this.