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debm55

(40,470 posts)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 11:03 AM Nov 2022

My Thanksgiving. [View all]

We went through the Thanksgiving prep here, I celebrated with my husband and son. I got a call last night from my mother. Where was I, why didn't I send a card, I will be sorry when my dad dies, Rich always visited his parents.. did we get sick from the turkey he made? I didn't say anything. She is mentally sick, saying something would really lead to a verbal thrashing. She has never apologized for call my adopted son a bastard whose own mother didn't want him. and me a pisspoor mother. It went on for an hour.Other kids visit their parents, the health of my sister, brother and her. I kept saying I had to go, but she goiing on and on.I have tried to ignore them all for what they did to me. I should have said something but I did't. I am afraid of her. I am still her punching bag. Even though she continued to blast my husband. I'm mad at myself for letting it go on. Even though , I called her and said she broke my heart with the mean comments about my son. and still never apologized. Odd, i had an appointment with my doctor and told him that mentally I was doing okay. Now, I back to square one. I know she wants money, but she still plays gambling games on the computer and has driven up her charge to 3,000 a month.I am a loss for words to say. Yesterday was trash your husband day, Thank you for letting me vent.

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My Thanksgiving. [View all] debm55 Nov 2022 OP
Hoo boy. That's a tough situation, but the fact that someone is a family member Ocelot II Nov 2022 #1
Ocelot,this has been going on since I was a child. Yesterday, I let it go on, though I did try to debm55 Nov 2022 #5
My mother said a lot of the same things to me Diamond_Dog Nov 2022 #13
Thank you Diamond. I know that is the case here. She always likes to get her claws in about my debm55 Nov 2022 #17
Just awful. Diamond_Dog Nov 2022 #21
I get it! no_hypocrisy Nov 2022 #2
nohypocracy , thank you for your hugs. debm55 Nov 2022 #18
Gawd. It sounds like Thanksgiving with my mom. LakeArenal Nov 2022 #3
Lake, thank you for listening. I can't talk to my husband about this as he would be very angry. debm55 Nov 2022 #6
just ((Hugs)) KarenS Nov 2022 #4
Karen the whole family is like this. Now that they are older, they are worse. All of debm55 Nov 2022 #7
I'm so sorry XanaDUer2 Nov 2022 #8
Deb, have you considered muting her on your cell & maybe checking every other day for messages? irisblue Nov 2022 #9
Excellent list, to which I add "Scapegoat Complex" & "The Inner World of Trauma" SheltieLover Nov 2022 #11
Thank you, Iris, for the list of books. With all that has happened(read my intro below, when I first debm55 Nov 2022 #20
If these are cell phone calls and you recognize the numbers, can you just... 3catwoman3 Nov 2022 #10
3cat, what if it is call that says someone died? debm55 Nov 2022 #22
Will anyone leave a voicemail that you could check on a few minutes later? 3catwoman3 Nov 2022 #26
Why pick up or listen to her at all? SheltieLover Nov 2022 #12
sheltie, they are old and I am afraid of getting the call where my father has died. debm55 Nov 2022 #15
Well, that's certainly your choice. SheltieLover Nov 2022 #25
Once my mother called my house 22 times in a row. Diamond_Dog Nov 2022 #14
But Diamond, what if she had a medical proplem? That's what keeps me answering. debm55 Nov 2022 #16
I totally understand deb Diamond_Dog Nov 2022 #19
No Diamond, I am the oldest, I guess they want my help-monetarily and presence. debm55 Nov 2022 #23
My dear friend, again I suggest muting her then checking the voice mail/text in an hour irisblue Nov 2022 #24
iris, I will try. Thank you.I see a shrink and counselor. I try to hide stuff from husband and son. debm55 Nov 2022 #27
Your partner and child know your egg donor is fucking you over and hurting you irisblue Nov 2022 #28
Hey debm, checking in on you today, Wednesday 30 November, how are you & yours today? irisblue Nov 2022 #29
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