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13. When my mom was dying my parents were in a retirement facility and most

Fri Mar 11, 2022, 11:54 PM

Mar 2022

of the advanced care we had to organize. My sister was constantly organizing and coordinating and ordering and getting the apartment assessed for the changing needs of my parents. My mom passed away and we were glad she was able to stay with dad. But a few months later dad moved into a nursing home and all the issues were solved. They had a trick for any eventuality. I should say that we had excellent private care too in both instances. My dad adjusted well and started speaking French to some of the staff (we did not know he could speak french). Point is you can't say your mom would be happier at one place vs. another. Just keep her safe and visit often and that is the best thing you can do.

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Got some good news today! Equals Glamrock's a piece of shit. [View all] Glamrock Mar 2022 OP

I hear you Glamrock Skittles Mar 2022 #1

Glam, you ain't shite, man. Take care. n/t MerryHolidays Mar 2022 #2

Thank you! Glamrock Mar 2022 #39

So glad you've found an excellent home for your mom with professional memory specialists. MLAA Mar 2022 #3

Thanks Glamrock Mar 2022 #19

Glam, you're not a pos! SheltieLover Mar 2022 #4

Not sure Glamrock Mar 2022 #20

When you talk with mom about the move, be positive & excited SheltieLover Mar 2022 #35

Thanks Glamrock Mar 2022 #40

Yw! SheltieLover Mar 2022 #41

Wish I had some words of wisdom.. Deuxcents Mar 2022 #5

Thank you! Glamrock Mar 2022 #21

We all must do things that make us search our souls. pwb Mar 2022 #6

Gracias mi amigo! Glamrock Mar 2022 #22

'here was nothing that red flagged your mother as someone we can't take on or help."' elleng Mar 2022 #7

Right? Glamrock Mar 2022 #23

Glam,you are a good person. I_UndergroundPanther Mar 2022 #8

Thanks Panther! Glamrock Mar 2022 #24

Been messing around on du I_UndergroundPanther Mar 2022 #29

Send it again didnt get it I_UndergroundPanther Mar 2022 #30

I have seen some of your distraught posts about the difficulty... 3catwoman3 Mar 2022 #9

That is true Glamrock Mar 2022 #42

This is going to give her the care she needs, and you will be able to spend quality time with her. BoomaofBandM Mar 2022 #10

Thank you! Glamrock Mar 2022 #43

Dude, steam away. Bristlecone Mar 2022 #11

Not sure how my own self flagellation helped Glamrock Mar 2022 #27

What's most important? As long as she's in a safe place where she's cared for well, JudyM Mar 2022 #12

When my mom was dying my parents were in a retirement facility and most applegrove Mar 2022 #13

xoxo voteearlyvoteoften Mar 2022 #14

Oh, I've been a caregiver (co- with my wife) for someone with dementia. PatrickforB Mar 2022 #15

I'm right there with you, Glam. SergeStorms Mar 2022 #16

Yup, me too. BigmanPigman Mar 2022 #25

You are lovely. And strong. mahina Mar 2022 #17

My mom owned a 2 family house where she lived on the first floor and tenant on 2nd. floor. 3Hotdogs Mar 2022 #18

I read final exit I_UndergroundPanther Mar 2022 #31

sending hugggggs. You and your wife are doing the correct thing, the one that is niyad Mar 2022 #26

I told my daughter something a long time ago. ShazzieB Mar 2022 #28

Dude? Good god, man. Glamrock Mar 2022 #32

You are very, very welcome! 🦋⚘🐦💕🎸🌈 🧚‍♀️🎶🌻 ShazzieB Mar 2022 #33

Glam, you are a loving and courageous soul. If I were your Mom I'd give you a hug and a kiss. littlemissmartypants Mar 2022 #34

Glam, we just went thru this at the beginning of Covid. slightlv Mar 2022 #36

it is good news! bonzotex Mar 2022 #37

One more thing... I would really worry about you and your mom if you didn't feel terrible/guilty. 3Hotdogs Mar 2022 #38

Oh Glam, I went through a very similar thing with my mom. lark Mar 2022 #44