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Mental Health Support

exboyfil

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4. I am doing my best to not be confrontational or play the blame game

Reply to FreepFryer (Reply #2)

Wed Feb 2, 2022, 07:28 AM

Feb 2022

I have been very insistent that my mother in law and my mom not confront her on these behaviors (her mom and dad were very critical of her growing up and she was the ugly duckling and undesirable fourth out of four - my mom was somewhat abusive towards me and criticized me for my life choices and not being more like my half brother). I understand I have issues as well, and I want to continue my lifetime commitment to our marriage. I have been positive, and I have tried to tell her how this impacts our lives.

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My wife is a major hoarder and I need suggestions on how to proceed [View all] exboyfil Feb 2022 OP

Help resources link FreepFryer Feb 2022 #1

I'll just add - hope you two can read, educate and start to make a change - together. FreepFryer Feb 2022 #2

I am doing my best to not be confrontational or play the blame game exboyfil Feb 2022 #4

It sounds like it - it's impossible to be without negative feelings, honesty & communication is key FreepFryer Feb 2022 #7

it's a mental disorder Skittles Feb 2022 #3

Intellectually she understands it exboyfil Feb 2022 #6

it is very hard on children not to be able to have friends over Skittles Feb 2022 #8

That's rough--I don't have much to offer beyond sympathy, and hoping you can Wingus Dingus Feb 2022 #5

Seek couples therapy SheltieLover Feb 2022 #9

So sorry sfdennis1 Feb 2022 #10

If there were a couple of YouTube videos you personally found particularly helpful & you have time.. hlthe2b Feb 2022 #12

I'm not a hoarder but I do have issues with getting rid of those things with memories... hlthe2b Feb 2022 #11

I wonder how much depression is part of this. 3Hotdogs Feb 2022 #13

make a rule every time you leave the house something has to leave with you Blues Heron Feb 2022 #14