Help! Trying to keep my family from falling apart!!

[RamblingRose]

19. She never got in trouble in high school and was involved in band, color guard, Odyssey of the Mind

choir, made good, grades, etc.. Your typical middle class white girl privilege


She's been drunk twice since she's been home. Threw up all over her mattress. I don't know who bought her the alcohol but they apparently delivered it to our house without us knowing since she has been good about quarantining.

She smokes pot too but that doesn't bother me like the drinking (her sister lives in FL & has a medical marijuana license).

I think it's all part of a vicious cycle??: vaping nicotine, alcohol & pot to counteract the nicotine, repeat....

She goes to a very big college, and being an introvert, I don't think she's found her niche yet. Sororities were only an option if they were willing to pay for it and that's not her style anyway.


My husband's had to refrain me from telling her to pack up her stuff and I'll drive her back to her apartment. He says to let him handle it. He's very non-confrontational and her personality is more in line with his. However, after the last several days I've about convinced him that we need to go to counseling and see how we can get her help. I did this by using a football analogy: we keep getting tackled, fumbling the ball, turnovers, getting sacked,... and we need a coach!!!

It was our 28th wedding anniversary yesterday but there was not much celebrating.