Cancer in My Chart for MIL

[Johnny2X2X]

14. What I am wondering

Is, why didn't they catch it way sooner? She's had yearly check ups, but it seems like some of the symptoms have been present for many years.

And lung cancer has the added dimension of everyone thinking she did it to herself. Yeah, she was a smoker. We begged her to stop for years. But it doesn't do any good to bring that up now. And I think some people smoke when they're younger because the consequences seem so far away. But for her, I think the last 20 years she's been battling depression after the loss of her husband to cancer at a pretty young age, There was kind of a fatalism at play with it, "I don't care if I die from smoking because I am still in so much emotional pain..."

But at this point, yeah, it's not going to be curable, so really doesn't matter to hear that now or in a couple weeks.