So tomorrow evening I have a talk scheduled with someone

[tavalon]

Too complicated to explain and someone here told me not to bother. Anyway, I'm scared of her because she reminds me of my evil step monster. I know she isn't and when I'm not facing down a truth telling barnstormer, I actually like her a lot. Unfortunately, I kept a lot of stuff bottled up because I didn't want my husband hurt. I love seeing him so happy and I want to continue to see him happy. But my bottling up things is actually making him unhappy, the woman in question unhappy and me unhappy. That's a lot of unhappy.

She's been doing a lot of taking peoples inventories lately (I don't think that includes her own or she wouldn't likely be doing what she's doing) and the other day I was so mad at her, I was of a mind to take her inventory. As anyone who is recovering knows, it's like a thousand times easier to take someone else's inventory than one's own. So, I could do it. Easy Speasy, especially considering my well honed sixth sense (had to hone it - one doesn't make it out of an alcoholic household alive without knowing the emotional tenor at all times). But it wouldn't be right.

Anyway, I'm scared. Scared I'll say something wrong. Scared I'll cry (because I'm actually angry. I hate that I cry when I'm angry. It's one of my least favorite girl traits). Scared that this is a zero sum game and I'll lose and so will my husband. I'm scared that I'll chicken out and not say what needs to be said. Scared that I won't know what to say.

So, without trying to parse out my weird life, any pearls of wisdom about how to face a truthtelling hard conversation would be appreciated.