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Addiction & Recovery

dixiegrrrrl

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1. I can share this with you...

Reply to irisblue (Original post)

Tue May 14, 2013, 05:59 PM

May 2013

There are actually 2 recoveries involved....the sobriety
and then the co-dependence issues.

Unless both people in a relationship can be clean and sober AND have worked the Co-de stuff, it is very very tough
to grow in the same direction.
Worse yet, it takes a few years to grow into the full recovery part of sobriety.

Thankfully, there is Al-Anon and also 12 Step Co-de groups.

Takes a hell of a lot of conscious work for 2 people to grow together.

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Relationship changes in recovery [View all] irisblue May 2013 OP

I can share this with you... dixiegrrrrl May 2013 #1

Remember this tired old saw? libodem May 2013 #2

Message auto-removed Name removed Jun 2013 #9

I stayed in my relationship cally May 2013 #3

Somehow Old Codger May 2013 #4

i (we) practice the 12 Traditions in our relationship NMDemDist2 May 2013 #5

There wasn't a chance in hell that my relationship would survive. Iggo May 2013 #6

still sober and clean. 6 months irisblue May 2013 #7

congrulations dear IrisB NMDemDist2 May 2013 #8

I wasn't, but the relationship died for reason's other than my codependency tavalon Jun 2013 #10